Fear or shame have the capacity to sometimes cause otherwise smart people to say or think things that are seriously stupid. Some of those feelings can really flavor some folks’ feelings about anal sex and spin their ideas into some wacky places. Many people have strong, negative feelings about bottoms and the things that can go into them or come out of them. Why do some people think it is? Some of this is as trite as a lot of people being uncomfortable with that part of their anatomy.
Wanting or enjoying anal sex is not any kind of bellwether of being gay or of being any orientation, just like wanting or enjoying kissing isn’t.
Some people enjoy engaging their anuses or those of others sexually, some don’t, and who’s who isn’t about sexual orientation. That same guy might also feel that way about kissing and who he kisses, but if he told people he was interested in kissing - just kissing, not kissing any given gender of people - you wouldn’t hear anyone suggesting that probably means he’s gay, right?Įveryone has an anus. Now, if and when a guy fantasizes about it, wants or or engages in it with other men, then that is an indication that guy probably is attracted to other men (though maybe not just men: being attracted to other men doesn’t always mean only being attracted to men), but that’s still not about anal sex specifically. Whether or not someone of any gender is curious about, wants, fantasizes about or takes part in anal sex in any way doesn’t tell us a darn thing about their orientation. The Dobbs decision is looming, and that's just the beginning.įollow Rewire News Group on Twitter to stay on top of every breaking moment. Human sexuality is incredibly diverse, and all someone liking a given kind of sex can usually tell us by itself is that someone likes that kind of sex. And for all of these groups, all of that goes for being on either end of anal sex, as it were, and for people with partners of any or every gender. There are also heterosexual men who like or love it. There are heterosexual men who don’t like anal sex or aren’t interested in it, either. But there are also gay or bisexual men who don’t like it, or who just aren’t interested in it. There are gay or bisexual men who love or like anal sex, it’s true. People have sometimes quietly thought of me as homosexual as I’ve never had a girlfriend and now I’m really not sure about myself? There are so many bad stereotypes and public jokes about gays I don’t think its worth considering? I guess if I could fall in love with a girl and kiss her I would be far more confident…but I shouldn’t need this! Advice please? Yet when I actually tried to see what anal was like through porn (I know this isn’t realistic) I really didn’t like it (to be polite).
Recently I’ve noticed I am turned on (and everything that follows that) with the thought of receiving anal. I’ve always been a nice person (the friendly guy) but without that many actual close friends who are girls. I’m a 16 year old boy, and for as long as I can remember I have been attracted to girls and yet rarely able to feel comfortable around them and get to know them. Is the nation next? Join Jess and Imani on their weekly podcast as they help you make sense of the chaos.